We all do it, right? We all blame others, some of us more than others.
When anything goes wrong, when things fail, I believe that many people’s first reaction is to blame someone other than themselves for the common failure. The blame game gets the best of us, whether in our personal, social, national, or international connections.
Some people prefer to focus longer than others on what the other person did that contributed to the negative outcome. Others, who I believe are far smaller in number, choose to cut the blame-game short. Is there any good that comes from the blame game? Who benefits from it?
When you think about it, the blame game is just a strategy to evade accountability and does absolutely nothing to assist or address the failed situation. I believe that when people engage in it, it is to shield themselves from criticism and accountability and to save their egos from being crushed.
It is a delegated responsibility for dealing with the failed scenario to the other members of the group. It effectively says, “Since I did nothing to contribute to our joint failure, and since you did wrong, you will also be the one to clean up the mess.”
Have you ever argued with your spouse or another close relative about who was to blame for a problem? But, come to think of it, does it really help fix a mistake that has already been made and cannot be reversed?
Finding out who the true wrongdoer is has nothing to do with blaming. Blaming is based on assumptions and educated guesses, and it is typically driven by a desire to avoid accountability and responsibility, as well as the punishment that may result if one is suspected of being responsible for the failure.
Blaming does not help in determining who the true culprit is because it is common for all sides to do so, making it difficult to determine who is telling the truth. People who blame others are unable or unwilling to recognize their own role in whatever went wrong.
As a result, they do not see themselves as part of the solution. In fact, they would seek out additional reasons to blame each other so that others would regard them as the victim rather than the offender.
Feelings are frequently tight in a blame game setting. People do not want to hear each other out and try to comprehend each other’s points of view, which is the last thing they want to do.
“Okay, whatever wrong has been done, it has already been done.” I feel it takes a lot of wisdom to declare. It’s a thing of the past that we can’t change. We are not assisting each other in determining who is truly accountable for the infraction since you are accusing me and I am blaming you.
So, what we should concentrate on is how we can both solve the problem so that the same negative repercussions do not arise in the future.
Stopping a blame game requires a great deal of judgment, self-control, and emotional intelligence. It means letting go of injured egos and focusing on the future rather than the past, which, as we all know, cannot be changed. When two or more parties refuse to accept responsibility and lack accountability, those who rely on the harmony of these two or more individuals suffer the most.
As a result, playing the blame game is a profoundly selfish act. Above all, I would want to emphasize that it does not help reverse what has already been done incorrectly. In fact, all it accomplishes is prolong the upset feelings of the various sides of the disagreement, resentments, and additional wrongdoings.
