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Speak Your MindA deceptive dance: Honesty and self-deception

A deceptive dance: Honesty and self-deception

As an avid reader of psychology facts, I recently stumbled upon a fascinating claim: people lie to themselves more frequently than they lie to others. This assertion raises an intriguing question: do we find it easier to be truthful to others than to ourselves? While the idea may initially seem perplexing, it highlights an essential truth about human behavior—people do, in fact, deceive themselves. This self-deception serves as a crucial precondition for the subsequent act of lying to others.

Individuals who possess the capacity to be honest with themselves, accepting reality as it is without embellishment, may still resort to falsehoods when dealing with others. They possess an intimate understanding of the truth, yet consciously choose to present an alternative version to safeguard themselves from potential judgment or negative consequences. Curiously, I find myself sympathizing with this group, as they, at the very least, remain honest with themselves. The perplexing group consists of those who not only deceive others but also engage in self-deception.

What motivates individuals to deceive themselves? Does lying offer any efficacy in altering the circumstances at hand? Can one sustainably deceive oneself? Through my life experiences, I have learned that one of the most effective ways to achieve peace of mind is by accepting and acknowledging reality for what it truly is. By eliminating internal conflicts and struggles, individuals gain a comprehensive understanding of their situation, enabling them to devise coping strategies. It is often said that understanding half of a problem is equivalent to solving half of it. The more deeply one comprehends and acknowledges a problem, the greater the likelihood of finding a viable solution.

Unresolved problems that worsen over time indicate a failure to recognize the existence of the problem or a lack of understanding regarding its magnitude. One cannot solve a problem they have not acknowledged—an elementary principle. Hence, when a problem persists and deteriorates, it is either because the stakeholders purposefully or unknowingly refuse to acknowledge the issue, or they fail to grasp its scale. Additionally, the lack of capacity to address the problem also plays a significant role in its persistence.

Lack of capacity can be understood, but self-deception, paired with deception towards others, is utterly unacceptable. This rings particularly true when the problem at hand inflicts suffering and hardship on others. Those responsible for a problem that affects many must not lie about its existence, magnitude, or the consequences it imposes on others.

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The sole path to resolution lies in acknowledging the problem, honestly communicating its reality, summoning the courage and resources to confront it, and seeking support in areas of limited capacity. Lying can never serve as a viable solution.

We can strive for a more truthful existence by embracing reality, confronting adversity head-on, and working collectively to overcome the challenges that lie before us. Only then can we forge a path towards genuine progress and lasting change.

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